Author(s): Nicola Miller-Clendon
As a practising midwife and a mother who has lost four babies at various stages of pregnancy, including a stillbirth, Nicola Miller-Clendon is well qualified to write this book. Pregnancy loss is more common than we think. For the 57,000 babies born live each year in New Zealand another 15,000 babies are not, often leaving women and their partners bereft and faced with uncertainty. Yet there has always been a code of silence around pregnancy loss â�� â��Less said, soonest mended,â�� making recovery for these families even more difficult.
This is the first generation of women who are beginning to talk about their losses and seek answers. Life after Baby Loss has been written to provide the support that is often hard to find and to answer the many questions, both emotional and medical, that these women have.
Beginning with recovery and grieving, there are also chapters on children and loss and guidelines for family and friends. Believing that the loss of a baby at whatever stage of pregnancy should be acknowledged, Nicola offers many suggestions of different ways a family could choose to remember their baby. In a chapter entitled Men Lose Babies, Too, Nicola addresses the often very different ways men and women may handle their loss.
A subsequent pregnancy after the loss of a baby can be an anxious time with many questions unique to this experience. Nicola takes the reader through each trimester, addressing these anxieties with both emotional support and medical information. An extensive resource section lists agencies and specialists for those who need further assistance and guidance.
First published June 2004.
An overview of pregnancy loss; recovery; men lose babies too; children and loss; for family and friends; handling the curveballs; difficult decisions; remembering your baby;to try again?; the first trimester; the second trimester;the third trimester;causes, signs and symptoms of pregnancy and infant loss;what to do if you think you are at risk;delivery following a loss;recurrent miscarriage;loss of multiples;investigations and care;for health professional.